Let Your Wedding Flowers Speak the Language of Love

Let Your Wedding Flowers Speak the Language of Love

 by Claire Bowes

Congratulations! You have found the man of your dreams and are getting married. What a wonderful time in your life – full of promise, hope, and happiness. Can you think of a better way to express these emotions than through flowers? A wedding would just not be the same without wedding flowers.

The Tradition of Wedding Flowers

Carrying flowers by the bride is not something new; it actually has its roots in ancient times. Strong smelling herbs and spices were used to keep away evil spirits during the wedding celebration. Later, during the Roman era, flowers were used to symbolize fertility. Eventually, flowers were given different meanings and used as a way of sending “love notes” in the form of bouquets. Soon, the tradition of the meaning of each flower trickled down and was adopted for the bride’s bouquet.

By tradition, the groom wears a flower that appears in the bridal bouquet in his buttonhole. This custom originates from the Medieval tradition of a knight wearing his lady's colors as a declaration of love.

So it seems that a wedding without flowers is like, well, it’s like a garden without flowers!

So Many Choices

Have you ever considered how many different kinds of flowers there are? Hundreds of beautiful blooms are available to create the romantic elegance your wedding deserves. You may even feel like author Phoebe Cary, who said, “I know not which I love the most, Nor which the comeliest shows, The timid, bashful violet Or the royal-hearted rose: The pansy in purple dress, The pink with cheek of red, Or the faint, fair heliotrope, who hangs, Like a bashful maid her head.” So, how do you choose?

One way is to consider the different meanings of the flowers and create a bouquet that is not only beautiful to the eye, but also meaningful to the heart. Another way is to consider the time of year. Many flowers are more common during one season than another, so finding off-season flowers may be difficult!

Based on tradition, here are some of the more popular wedding bouquet flowers and what they mean, along with when they are in season:

• Red Rose – Love, All Year
• White Rose - Unity, All Year
• Yellow Rose - Joy, All Year
• Orange Rose - Passion, All Year
• Pink Rose - Secret Love, or Grace & Sweetness, All Year
• Alstroemeria - Devotion, All Year
• Baby's Breath - Innocence, All Year
• Calla Lily - Magnificent Beauty, March through September
• Carnation - Devoted Love, All Year
• Daisy - Innocence & Romance, All Year
• Ivy - Fidelity, Marriage, All Year
• Lily Of The Valley - Happiness, March through September
• Myrtle - Joy , All Year
• Orchid - Love & Beauty, All Year
• Stephanotis - Marital Happiness, All Year
• Tulips - Love & Passion, January through April
• Zinnia - Affection, All Year

The best way to get the right flowers is to choose the right florist and one of the best ways to find a good florist is by word of mouth. If the florist's service and work comes highly recommended, chances are they will do a good job for you. Select a florist that listens to you and really grasps the look and feel you want. Be open to the florist's ideas and suggestions. In the long run, it will be the value of their experience, talent, and expertise that you have purchased.

Don’t Forget the Flowers for the….

In addition to flowers for the wedding party and family members, you will need flowers for the church, arrangements for the reception tables, head table, and guest book table. You may even want flowers for the cake and a small bouquet for the ladies' room. To make sure you don’t forget any of your floral needs, here is a list of possibilities:

• Flowers for the Bridal Party
• Bride's Bouquet
• Maid/Matron of Honor
• Mother of the Bride
• Mother of the Groom
• Bridesmaids
• Flower Girl
• Grandmothers
• Groom
• Best Man
• Father of the Bride
• Father of the Groom
• Ushers
• Ring Bearer
• Grandfathers

Flowers for the Wedding Ceremony

• Altar Arrangements
• Aisle Markers
• Candelabras
• Aisle Runner
• Canopy or Archway
• Kneeling Bench

Flowers for the Reception

• Bridal Table
• Cake Table
• Guest Table
• Buffet Table
• Bandstand
• Gift Table
• Guest Book Table
• Bouquet to Throw

Sometimes, the master of ceremonies (as part of the official group running the wedding reception and deeply involved in its success) is also invited to wear a flower on their lapel. 

This adds certain prestige and class and importance when the emcee takes up the microphone to speak. Certainly in the Croatian community (where a sprig of Rosemary is worn by nearly all the guests in exchange for a monetary donation to signify good luck and prosperity and plenty) the wedding MC will be one of the first to be dressed up and adorned with this special wedding tradition worn on the jacket lapel.

Fresh flowers underline the importance and elegance of your wedding day. They enhance any setting and can literally transform an average looking room into a beautiful scene. If you've planned well, your flowers will be exactly what you want, and you'll be free to focus on what your day is all about.

About The Author Claire Bowes is a successful freelance writer and owner of 1st For Flowers